Send the flying monkeys

I was speaking with a friend who shared how they were going through a very hard time with the dissolution of a relationship. It was interesting that the relationship was that of a business partnership, which had been four years in the making and two years in actual existence .( It's a wonderful thing simply a paper transaction for tax purposes, but hard)..They expressed the most challenging part of the process was breaking down the financial obligations....the, WHO is responsible for WHAT moving forward because everything was still going to be needed just now under individual business names..... They were so stressed that they started getting upset saying they wished they could just scrap it and start over...which got me to thinking.( I know dangerous , me thinking)

Couple-hood, no matter at what level, be it friendship, partnership, 

consultancy  or marriage requires defined roles regarding our relationship and handling of   money. You can't move into the quintessential "couple-HOOD" achieve the goals of the "ADDRESS "  without the clear understanding that it takes a clear vision of money roles to sustain it...otherwise frustration, stress and flying monkeys will creep in or be summonsed.

In the couple -hood " It's a strange, wonderful and wild ride. Universally, its the relationship  that challenges us like no other. Sometimes it is predictable. Other times it has unexpected twists and turns. And MONEY plays a big role in the journey. Couples consciously or unconsciously decide how to spend and enjoy money, how to save and amass wealth and how to use money to exert power and control in the relationship. Some partners fight about money, others worry about it. Some couples join forces and create a strong financial and emotional bond; others never seem to trust each other financially." ( that's from my colleague in the business Kathleen , speaking of the couplehood of marriage....thanks girl!!)  when we undergo the task of partnership we do it in good faith not believing that in latter days when, for whatever reason, a dissolution happens be it death, divorce or the Tax Man... That out of lack of knowledge, we' ll be summoning the Flying Monkeys to come do our bidding... So, to avoid this misstep, I suggest taking a moment to take your financial temperature, Realize where your affairs reside in there current state, then Relearn with whomever you are in the Couple-hood with how to establish clear money roles..... ( I use a tool in my business called a financial survey.) this will help provide perspective and insight.

Otherwise someone will be saying...."send in the flying monkeys" and we don't want that!!

Let me know how I can help

The face of finance,

Christyna with a "y"

You killed my sister!!!

It was the death of the sister that forced the movement of Dorothy  onto the path..... But that's to obvious so how about this....She killed what was perceived and labeled Bad and was given the Good out of it; The slippers!!!!

What if,  financial setbacks, fractured relationships and slain goals we're all simply purging and purification for the good; The Revealing  of the RUBY or SILVER Slippers (whichever version you like the wizard  of Oz or the Wiz)?

Hum, the East sister dies at the start of the movie...(or Dorothy's new life) and at the end of the movie the sister of the West dies ( and the song "Can you feel a brand new Day" blast in the back ground, Wiz version) ... Are you thinking what I'm thinking, can you see where I'm going here??  (I could soooo go into a religious posture right down through here but, i'll keep it secular and only say ...we must work while it is day....) If you recall, there was the Wicked Witch of the West and the Wicked Witch of the East (the east dies). No matter where you are on this  planet we call Earth, the Sun rises from the East and sets in the West...the East is in the past and the West is your future, the middle is the journey... In order to make the most of this, She had to (in the words of Debbie Allen, from the show "a different world") Relax, Relate and Release and MOVE ( I added that)!!!!  

Maybe you have to Realize, Relearn and Reload to Move!!!

So, What will you do with your day; After the East of the morning is dead!!

The Face of Finance

Christyna with a "y"

Your the wizard???

Smiles abound, the door opens, a loud baritone voice says "enter", you walk towards the curtain, pull it back expecting to see a stately figure...instead, you see a mirror!!! Reflecting from the mirror is a face that looks familiar but you can't make it out, you step closer, use your hand to wipe away the film and "Realize" starring back at you is somebody that you use to know (thanks Gotye, that song, somebody that I use to know) 

The You, that You use to know!!! Hum? I've been reflecting and reloading myself with the help of audio coaching, one of the things I've noticed sparking back up inside of me has been my ambition, my drive, my determination....that feeling that I can achieve anything!! 

Do you remember having that, that magic, that ability to speak it and be it, what you wanted showed up? Do you remember when the magic left, or you gave it away? what did it feel like, better question what does it feel like now?? Dorothy, her brain, heart and courage pulled the curtain back and saw a small, shriveled little man who called himself the wizard, if you remember, the wizard had the ability to GRANT whatever those who met him asked. Really??? The little man, from the same place Dorothy came from, was the grantor?? Isn't it funny how we give our hopes, ideas, dreams and the like to others we Believe have more power or influence than we do; How we believe more in the power of others than we do in our own...What if you and I are the grantee and the grantor all in one,The mythical all powerful Wizard!!!

As the wizard,  you need a goal, something to help you focus your mind and efforts, to pull you through when the road gets tough...no matter if it's physical, financial or relational two constants must always be present.....a high Goal and a high Standard!!  Also, there must be Belief....along the way you may possibly attract a mentor/coach who's been there done that approach can help you remember or guide you back to YOU!!

 Set backs, changes and life choices sometime fog or shield our view, but with a little REALIZATION , what was old can be made new, igniting the flame of your imagination, and fueling your inner Wizard. 

So now,  look into the mirror, a little harder, see the image shaping, look familiar? it's YOU, The Wizard!!!

The face of finance

Christyna with a "y"

Can you see the city from there!!

OMG... Relax, relate, release..I keep telling myself! I know I'm on the verge of greatness but feel this uneasy pull to stay right here reveling in the familiar. Does that sound like a tape you play to yourself? Do you have a gnawing inside that's calling you to a place of unfamiliarity, that if you just surrender to, great things await? The reality of seeking personal greatness is...it takes an action, an action we don't always want to give in to "Movement" .  Walking the Road to your personal greatness can be lonely, uncomfortable and Reflective..

Keeping true to the theme of the wizard of oz... The main character dorothy, ( or you) had to step up, tell herself she could do it, put one foot in front of the other and move forward into the things of the unknown....pressing toward the mythical city where she would find the "all might Wizard" along the way she found her courage, heart and brain... Her best!!!

What will you find, if you give your best another chance??

Tell yourself ....I can, I will, I must !!!!

 I'll see you in the city where the color is Gold.....

The face of finance

Christyna with a "y"