This week I was asked a question , it's one I've personally asked for years to candidates I was offering employment to as a corporate recruiter....the question was, "design the life you see for yourself in three years." In other words, where do you see yourself in three years? I have never felt any concern in that question before, but for some reason I assigned such a level of gravity to the question this time that it stumped me.
In the past when asked, I could rattle off my two year, five year and ten year plans as easy as breathing...but this day, I was swirling with mental chatter . As a women of a certain age, wife and mother extraordinar...the question now has so many factors to be considered, how will my decisions effect my future personally and those around me who depend on me...
As a professional financial consultant, my main tool of choice is the ability to help my clients DREAM and picture where they want to be in the future, my job is in helping them PLAN the steps to get there. So, why was it so hard for me to answer, for me to implement my tool to my own Dream Plan??? Could it be, like you, I now put my family ahead of myself in that role as "mom" and in that role, choose the selfless sacrifice of $150 towards the college fund opposed to the $150 steal of a lifetime cute "butter soft" leather tailored zip front "Theory" blazer at Nordstrom ( yes, it was that cute, a perfect fit medium, I already had the stark white button down, black pencil skirt and the open toed stilettos from my closet already picked out) to be responsible and not seen as selfish.
Does this question also stump you or have you been resilient and steadfast in your reverent pursuit of your dreams, withstanding the sway of life events and there impact on your dream plan? So, how do we , those of us who have altered our Dream Plan, either by circumstance, situation or design, reclaim and ReLoad it back into our path without feeling guilty or selfish but empowered as leading? If you remember, ReLoad means to start again, redo with firm foundation . For some, you may feel your personal economy impacted your dream, others it may be a change in title from single to married, married to single, children at home to empty nesters.
No matter the reason, we have to make a Choice, to Re Load our dream plan.
Accept and revel in the new economic status or title change, acknowledging that the path is only as clear and as wide as the dream that manifest it, for the dream must be the unmovable anchor.
Now let me hear you loud, bold and empowered...where do you see yourself in the next three years???
Remember, brickless paths help us develop fortitude and vision for our comeback !!!
Christyna with a "y"
The face of finance
Hey Christyna,
ReplyDeleteThis is so wonderful and right on time. Perfect for me and I can see you in it too of course. Funny, this morning I went to church at Joel Olsteen's and I wrote down something he said. " Your life is going to follow your vision". I, of course, thought of you because you tell me all of the time to make my vision board. So without vision your vision life is going to stay exactly where it is. In reading your post it first urges me to first make a vision because I think I have let go of the old one because of my new circumstances. And yes you are right there is absolutely nothing wrong with reloading the plan. The new plan is going to be bigger and better for you(me) incorporating whatever changes have happened in your life. I love it Christyna, keep sharing please!!!