Dorothy was distracted, what about you!!

A friend sent me a text asking out of true and sincere concern seeing if I was ok, they noticed I had transformed ( in physical appearance) so much so that they wanted to make sure I wasn't sick, I thought about the sincerity and took a look at myself and acknowledged it's significance. I thought about how I've been so caught up in my day to day grind and likened it, a tornado of life, distracted by my own personal "toto" . The significance of my toto's (distractions) have had me so wrapped up I hadn't noticed my own transformation.

If you remember, it was that cold winter night that Dorothy went to take out the trash, just as toto dashed out the door into the storm....like a good caretaker Dorothy left her primary task and ran after toto, so distracted by her desire to make sure toto was safe she put herself in harms way!!!! Which makes me ask, What's your "TOTO"?

What task or thing of significance in your life  have you found yourself distracted by, What tornado's have you been caught up in because your "toto" ran out the door?

As women, we are excellent at multitasking, caregiving and caretaking..but at what cost? Your "toto" may be working instead of going back to school to increase your income or forgoing work ( income) to care for children, a parent, a spouse or  your "toto" may be FEAR....False Evidence Appearing Real...keeping you paralyzed in a rut, or like mine your toto may be not facing the truth that a tornado is what your in and transformation is happening regardless, while your distracted, running after your toto.

"Toto's" are anything that distract us from keeping the main thing the main thing.....

Dorothy was so distracted that she couldn't see the transformative tornado that was heading her way... 

What transformative something have you not seen due to your distracting Toto?

 Once you answer the question, pull out a sheet of paper identify the toto or toto's. Pull out another sheet, write or rewrite your goals,( those you forgot, said would never happen or gave up on) cross reference and see if toto's have kept you from them. Were you suppose to have that vacation home but spent the extra monthly income on St. John knits ( toto) , were you suppose to retire last year but wanted the new car so now your working an extra two years ( toto)...

Remember, all it takes is "Realization" to allow transformative  moments to be realized.

Reach out to me if you need extra sheets of paper!

The face of finance

Christyna with a "y"

Where the path leads or Lead and the path....will develop

This week I was asked a question , it's one I've personally asked for years to candidates I was offering employment to as a corporate recruiter....the question was, "design the life you see for yourself in three years." In other words, where do you see yourself in three years? I have never felt any concern in that question before, but for some reason I assigned such a level of gravity to the question this time that it stumped me. 

In the past when asked, I could rattle off my two year, five year and ten year plans as easy as breathing...but this day, I was swirling with mental chatter . As a women of a certain age, wife and mother extraordinar...the question now has so many factors to be considered, how will my decisions effect my future personally and those around me who depend on me...

As a professional financial consultant, my main tool of choice is the ability to help my clients DREAM and picture where they want to be in the future, my job is in helping them PLAN the steps to get there. So, why was it so hard for me to answer, for me to implement my tool to my own Dream Plan??? Could it be, like you, I now put my family ahead of myself in that role as "mom" and in that role, choose the selfless sacrifice of $150 towards the college fund opposed to the $150 steal of a lifetime cute "butter soft" leather tailored zip front "Theory" blazer at Nordstrom ( yes, it was that cute, a perfect fit medium, I already had the stark white button down, black pencil skirt and the open toed stilettos from my closet already picked out)  to be responsible and not seen as selfish.

Does this question also stump you or have you been resilient and steadfast in your reverent pursuit of your dreams,  withstanding the sway of life events and there impact on your dream plan?  So, how do we , those of us who have altered our Dream Plan, either by circumstance, situation or design, reclaim and ReLoad it back into our path without feeling guilty or selfish but empowered as leading? If you remember, ReLoad means to start again, redo with firm foundation . For some, you may feel your personal economy impacted your dream, others it may be a change in title from single to married, married to single, children at home to empty nesters.

No matter the reason, we have to make a Choice, to Re Load our dream plan.

Accept and revel in the new economic status or title change, acknowledging that the path is only as clear and as wide as the dream that manifest it, for the dream must be the unmovable anchor.

Now let me hear you loud, bold and empowered...where do you see yourself in the next three years??? 

Remember, brickless paths help us develop fortitude and vision for our comeback !!!

Christyna with a "y"

The face of finance